My gut was talking. I wasn't listening

You know that moment when you realise A BIG BLIND SPOT, something that should have been obvious and that uncomfortable moment when you realise it had been sitting with you for weeks or months… you just were not REALLY listening! 

This has been that week and a mirror mirror moment.

A few things showed up in my business over the last months. Not in a dramatic, everything-is-on-fire kind of way. More like... a slow build of discomfort that I kept pushing through instead of stopping to look at.

And here's the thing.

My gut was talking the whole time.

That quiet nudge. That feeling of something's not quite right here. That low hum of I'm not fully comfortable with this.

And I kept moving anyway.

When I finally stopped and got curious. Really curious. Not just briefly acknowledged it and kept going. What I found was that there were standards and values I hadn't named clearly enough. Things deeply important to me that were humming in the background.

But if I'm really honest... it wasn't only that.

Even the standards/values I did know? I wasn't speaking up about them. Not when something fell short. Not when situations called for it. I was feeling it and going quiet. Pushing through instead of addressing it.

The unclarity was one thing. The silence was another. Both were costing me.

And that's when the big realisation landed.

One of my cold morning walks. The ones where everything gets quiet enough to actually hear yourself think. And it arrived.

I coach this. I sit with founders and teams and say get clear on your values, describe what they look like in real life, model them, speak up when they're not being met.

I had stopped doing that in parts of my own business.

Not because I stopped caring. Just because I got busy running it and allowing other bigger focuses to be the priority… And somehow that felt like a good enough reason at the time.

It wasn't.

What's helped me in the last weeks has been stopping and getting really specific. Not just naming a value like "communication" but asking myself, what does exceptional communication actually look like in my business? What does it look like day to day? In the hard conversations? When something feels off?

Because that's where it gets real.

And when I looked at it through that lens... I could see exactly where I wasn't living it. Where I was the gap.

That's not a comfortable thing to see. But it was the most useful thing I could have done.

So I want to ask you something.

Is there a value or a standard in your business that's been quietly humming in the background? Something you know matters deeply but haven't fully named. 

Or haven't been speaking up about when it's not being met?

Because that hum doesn't go away on its own. It just gets louder. And the costs of avoiding it can be big! 

Hit reply on what resonated with you from this… and note I am not making any of this mean “Failure” or "I'm not good enough to do what I do” which your sneaky inner voice can do… watch for her ;) 

With love,

Mira

PS - If you know you're overdue for a proper, honest look at where your business actually stands, The 360° Business Clarity Session is where we go deeper. Just you and me, ninety minutes, one clear next move. Email me to book this.